Dealing as I do on a daily basis with a lot of young women at RedPillWomen subreddit, you really get a feel for the minds of girls today. Now there are perfectly nice girls that are married, or close to married, and working on starting a family and that absolutely “get it”, but frankly, there’s nothing to say to those girls except “Good job!” Those are the ones that help us with the new girls.
Let’s talk about the new girls. Most of these girls are young, anywhere from late teens to mid-twenties. They have completely unrealistic expectations of their futures. They are determined to have it all. They all have their timelines of what-happens-when thoroughly structured in their minds. They are all, each and every one of them, special snowflakes.
In fact, it is the special snowflakiness that is the hurdle to becoming a valuable member of the RPW community, because as long as they are concentrating on themselves and their unrealistic goals, they are unable to actually listen to the older members and take what they say to heart. These girls come in, gangbusters, and are smug and self righteous; they come in with attitudes and refuse to listen. They like to try to turn RPW into what THEY want it to be instead of what it IS.
RPW is like Fight Club in that after a few days of abuse on the porch, they become valuable members of our community. You have to tear down their snowflake exterior to get to the real woman inside. There was something about RPW that attracted them; they found us through a troll site making fun of either us or TheRedPill subreddit, and liked what they saw enough to get a new alternate identity and subscribe to our community.
It’s funny because we, the other moderators and I, basically have to game these girls. When they come in you have to slap down anything that smells of feminism. That is imperative. When they say equal, BOOM! Slap that down. Their shaming language like “Um…” or “Wow, just wow!” BOOM! Slap that down. Their haughty know-it-all attitude? BOOM! Slap that down. You can’t do this stuff nicely; women don’t get “nice” because to us “nice” is weakness. If you don’t slap it down, we don’t think you mean it.
When they start to “get it” we give them the little RPW flair to encourage them. When they start back up with their special snowflakiness we slap it down. Punish quickly when they are getting out of line, but slowly reward when they are on the right track. I read about these tactics on the male sites I go to and I recognize that those tactics WORK. AWALT.
On the other side of the coin, we have the whiners and complainers that love to husband/SO bash. It never starts out that way in the initial post, but comes out in the replies to comments. That cannot stand. We have to slap that down too. RPW is NOT about blaming or complaining about your SO. RPW is not there to discuss what our husbands can do for us, we are there to discuss how to be a better wife and have a better marriage.
Next, after they realize that their tone and attitude are important, they are still holding on to their unrealistic expectations. Almost always the scenario is to get their undergrad, go on to grad school and sometimes go for a doctorate. To a woman. Each and every one of them. They have their timelines to graduate the last of school at 26 or 27, find a husband, and have kids.
These women know exactly what their future field will pay, too. They are all going to make the maximum pay upon graduating without the benefit of having any experience. Each and every one of them is going to graduate and get a job that pays six figures. Of course some of them will, but the vast majority will not, and they don’t understand that pay differs from area to area. They don’t understand that the cost of living differs from area to area. They have no life experience; all they have is the exuberance of youth.
They have never had a job. They have never had to make ends meet, pay rent, buy groceries, or worry about most things that their parents worry about. They have never been told that they can’t do something, and when they have talked about their unrealistic expectations in the past, they were always encouraged. When we at RPW tell them the truth, it is a slap in the face to them. We are the first people to tell them the truth. Truth hurts!
I think that we scare them, too. Their future was neatly spelled out since high school and their timelines look excellent on paper. They know exactly what the next step is in their plan and they have been following those steps without deviating since they got into high school. We go in and tell them about reality and throw a monkey wrench into the works. It shatters their precious timeline.
They are absolutely terrified of not having it all. They have no concept of being “poor but happy”. They don’t understand how a man and woman can get married, start small and work together towards their future. They don’t want the starter home; they want the McMansion. They can’t marry a guy out of college; they need someone who makes six figures so that they can be a SAHM. Yes, the same girls who are intending on heading to grad school are also intending on being SAHM.
The problem with their timelines is that the husband doesn’t enter the picture until the woman is in her late twenties. After grad school, is “Find Husband” and then “Have Kids”. Of course the husband has to be able to support a family of five. And he’s going to magically appear at the right time, and he’s going to want someone approaching their thirties, and he’s going to want kids right away, etc and so on. What they want is the perfect red pill husband at their beck and call! They want the world and they want it NOW!
So, this is the new generation of women. This is what we are dealing with at RPW. We have to break through their Princess shell, smash their timeline and crumple their dreams before they will listen to us. We have to tear them down before we can rebuild them. We have to destroy their feminism and replace it with femininity.