Caution vs. Risk

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Men & women are very different & a major difference is seen in the way they handle risk. Women urge caution yet men need to risk. This is just another genetic trait that harkens back to the days of men hunting big game & women staying home with babies. The man who took the most risks usually got the most or best women.

This is also why it is bad for a single woman to raise sons; she is always urging caution & this may make her son fearful, which is setting him up for a dismal future of cubicle-dwelling celibacy. One reason a woman decides to have babies outside of a relationship is because in her mid-thirties she realized she was going to die alone & creating a human herself is the best way to avoid that fate. Of course she urges caution – if her kid dies, she will still die alone. So no climbing trees, no skateboarding, no doing any of the things boys need to do. Then again, a lot of times it backfires & makes the boy take more risks, so there’s that.

This is why women tell boys to “just be yourself”. It is safer than taking risks. Risk is going out on a limb & getting a better job. Risk is having fun doing dangerous things like flying airplanes, climbing mountains & diving for sunken treasure. Risk is opening your own business. Risk is how you obtain confidence, wealth & power: all the things that attract women.

Risk in men instills fear in a woman, which is a powerful but positive form of dread. Dread and fear create tingles, & tingles lead to sex. I’m not saying to go out & risk bodily harm for some random woman in hopes of getting laid, because that is the worst form of white knighting, but if your normal course of action is risk-taking, you will be attractive to women.

Don’t risk just to attract women, though; do it for yourself because that’s what makes you a man. Do it because it is fun & because it makes you money, or whatever reason you might have. Attracting women is only a byproduct of you being a man.

 

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11 thoughts on “Caution vs. Risk

  1. annesquared

    lol – I had to look up the “about” on you. This definitely goes in the “questionable advice” category – it is nowhere near the occasional flash of brilliance. I hope some poor misguided male being raised by a single mom does not heed the caution sign at the beginning of your post.

  2. TempestTcup Post author

    I don’t get it – are you saying men shouldn’t risk? Boys shouldn’t climb trees? Women aren’t attracted to men that risk?

    Or was it the part of women having babies so that they don’t die alone? I know of quite a few that did, although they wouldn’t put it in exactly those words. Also, thier sons are more fearful of normal boy activities & are more likely to be bullied. I hear it all the time from people I know.

  3. annesquared

    I am saying all people should take risks, climb trees, take chances. Why limit raising our daughters differently than our sons. (“No, you can’t do that, you are a girl.”)

    You through a number of complex issues at me. I think many men choose, through lack of responsible sex, or to have a second family to “do it right this time” – and that leaves many children without a responsible male role model. Period. Forget as a “risk” taker, but as a real parent on every level. (Even if it is a 2 family home.) Statistically, the majority of the time, the woman ends up raising the children. If she is lucky, a responsible male role model can be found. Or she, herself has the skills to model good “human” responsible behavior.

    Risk taking – for a child this can mean different things. One child doesn’t mind the bumps and bruises, but does not want to make a mistake. Another does not know how to start interacting with peers, but is willing to endure what I already mentioned. This has very little to do with the father’s risk-taking behavior – if he is a “macho man” he is much more likely to bully his own child into the behavior and not give him the skills he will need later in life to succeed.

    I am very curious now – in your sample of “I hear it all the time from people I know” – what socioeconomic group are you talking about?

  4. TempestTcup Post author

    Oh sure, I’m all for girls taking risks & playing hard or whatever. I was always a risk taker – flying & jumping out of airplanes, opening my own business, etc. This post was about boys, though.

    Upper middle class highly educated professional women. They all got married (or cohabitated) & got pregnant (not necessarily in that order) in their mid-thirties, the relationship was short (it was just another relationship), husband/boyfriend kicked out. The father will be in the kid’s life but usually for holidays, not the daily upbringing. I think this is detrimental to all children but especially to the boys.

    These single mothers are everywhere. Most of them are in their forties now, with great jobs/careers, nice houses in nice neighborhoods. But of course, I might be hanging out with a bad crowd 🙂

  5. dannyfrom504

    i was fortunate in this. my mom was VERY good about letting me take risks. of course she’ll readily admit i gave her a heart attack a day until i turned 14- when i discovered girls. then her primary concern was making sure i didn’t get a girl pregnant. lol.

    we watched a woman lose her shit when her son ate it while running to the video games at my local. she coddled and fawned over his possible “boo-boo”. me and the male bartender shuddered. NOT the right way to handle such an incident.

  6. TempestTcup Post author

    You are very lucky! All these kids I see now are 10 to 16 or so & discouraged from anything more strenuous than Scrabble. My nephew finally broke out at 14 & joined a group of kids that longboard all over town. A few years ago we tried to get him to fly with us on a Ford Tri-Motor that was selling rides, but my sister was so freaked out that he wouldn’t get on the plane. We’ll try again to get him flying now that she seems to have loosened the grip a little.

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  8. thebigpappy

    Well nowadays everything is forbidden in the name of safety. Kids stay home and play video games and watch TV. But hey, even that’s not safe, it makes killers.

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