Monthly Archives: July 2013

Be Nice – Just Be Yourself


Have you ever wondered why your mother, sisters, cousins, and the chick that has friend-zoned you told you to be nice & just be yourself? I do. It’s because they have no desire to be attracted to you & they want you to be nice TO THEM & just be yourself TO THEM.

They really have no use for a son, brother, cousin who calls them out on their bad behavior & refuses to kowtow to their every whim. They need someone to help them move, run errands for them, and buy them stuff. They need you to listen to their complaints. They need you to unclog their drains.

The girls who friend-zone you & tell you that you will make some (other) girl a great boyfriend? They want you to be nice & just be yourself so that they can cry on your shoulder when their bad boy doesn’t call or dumps them. They want your male opinion on how to make their bad boy keep calling.

Besides, if you were to wise up, quit being nice & start being a better version of yourself, you would be too busy dating or spending time with a girlfriend to cater to all of the women in your life that you are not having sex with.

Sometimes I Crack Myself Up



The lore is that when you have sex above your grade, you have difficulty having sex below what you are used to. The problem is that you can have sex with guys that are much hotter than the ones that will actually have a relationship with you.

So, when you settle for the beta provider in your last chance baby rabies need to get pregnant & have some poor sucker foot the bill, you are still thinking about all of those guys in your past that lowered their standards to have sex with you.

After the children are in school & you get bored & unhaaaaappy, you frivorce the poor guy & take his children thinking that you can get some millionaire handy-man to pull your hair.

Problem is that you will end up alone except for all of your cats that will eat you when you die.


Finding Femininity in Today’s World


[This is a repost from The new site Girls Being Girls, which will be delving into becoming a better & more feminine woman. Please come join us in our efforts!]

Western civilization has steered you wrong. Look at television; every sitcom is based on the strong independent woman & the bumbling fool of a man she has to mother & mollycoddle. Every commercial is the same: silly guy with the smart woman with all of the solutions.

Women are being taught that men are hapless nincompoops who need a strong guiding hand, when in reality the opposite is true. Not of course that women are nincompoops, but the strong guiding hand should come from men in the natural order of things. Women are naturally happier when lead by a confident, competent male.

The problem is that strong, confident, competent males are difficult to find because for the past 60 or so years, society has been systematically discouraging & eliminating all masculine behavior. As society became more & more feminized, so have the males, either by persuasion, by force or by prescription drugs in childhood.

Males naturally risk & risk is dangerous whether it is monetary or physical. Little boys play rough, climb trees, jump their bikes, have dirt clod fights, play swords with 2x4s, etc. And yes, there are tom-girls that also participate in this behavior, but we are talking in generalities & tom-girls are outliers. They are the exception to the rule.

Women urge caution & seek security. Even the so called “strong independent woman” urges caution. As society is feminized, you see more & more laws enacted. You see more monitoring of private behavior. More cameras at intersections. Women are outraged by a word, horrified by a boy’s “violence”, or demanding “equality” where there are no equals.

So women have created generation after generation of “yes dear” men. Men who have had the masculine beaten out of them since birth. Boys who get in trouble at school if they get fidgety sitting in a classroom for hours on end & are put on medication so that they can “concentrate”. Men who get called up to HR for complimenting a woman’s dress.

Since manly behavior has been discouraged in men, women have stepped up to take on the strong role. As men are more feminized, women have become more masculine. A reversal of the natural order of genders has happened. This reversal has resulted in the breakdown of the traditional family.

The problem with strong women & feminized men is that they are not attractive to each other. The feminine attracts the masculine & the masculine attracts the feminine, so when there is a role reversal, there is a loss of attraction on both sides. It is the biggest tragedy of today’s world & the cause of all of societal woes.

If a female is having trouble sticking to a relationship, it is generally because there is initial attraction and everything is great, but then the female will usually “break her alpha

Yours is not a unique story;

girl meets alpha
girl loves alpha
girl sees room for improvement in alpha
alpha acquiesces to change in hopes of not being nagged
alpha senses he is no longer in charge
beta is unhappy
beta emotionally checks out of the relationship
girl sees spark is gone
girl is unhaaappppy
girl meets alpha [recursive]

The solution to this problem is in you. If you allow your man to be a man, you will be more attracted to him. It is a simple solution, but it is not easy to do. By finding your inner, hidden femininity, you allow your man to express his inner, hidden masculinity. Since the masculine attracts the feminine and vice versa, you both will be more attracted to the other.

Finding your femininity is a long slow process, but it will reap huge benefits. Through femininity, you will find true peace of mind & happiness. The basic steps towards becoming a better woman are: look nice, soften & sweeten your personality, respect & serve your man, & enthusiastically engage in sex. Most importantly, do not nag, belittle, or snipe at your man.

I’m not going to go into detail on the basic steps of becoming a better woman in this post because it is a long involved process, but future posts will be devoted to this subject. The first step is to acknowledge that there is a problem & resolve to fix the problem. You will be incredibly happier & so will your man.

Girls Being Girls


Margery, one of my co-moderators at RedPillWoman, and I would like to announce a new website Girls Being Girls. We get so many questions on reddit about how to become more feminine, that we (okay, Margery did all the work & the idea was hers, too) decided to dedicate an entire blog to femininity.

I do a few posts here on cooking, exercise and other things that might be considered girly, but this just doesn’t seem like a good place to post things like Natural Ingredients For Facial Masks on a daily basis.

I hope you all come over & play with us & If any of you other ladies (or men if they are so inclined) would like to do a post on finding or maintaining femininity in today’s world, we would love to see them!

As the Hamster Spins


We were doing our usual Thursday thing, getting burgers (sans bun for me) & a beer at the bar & there was this loud chick next to my husband. She was really loud & plenty sassy, like those 40s Dames with their fast talking ways. She was talking to the bartender about OK Cupid. She had a date the other night with a guy from there & was very disappointed.

“He was only three apples tall & weighed about a buck forty!” She screeched.

“So, he was short & thin?” asked the bartender.

“I even checked the doorknob on his profile picture & it was at his hip, so it made him look tall.”

“Ah, the old fake doorknob trick.”    (did I mention that the bartender had a dry sense of humor?)

“My profile plainly states that 5’6” is my absolute minimum & he was only about 5’3” or 5’4”.”

“That’s terrible, how tall are you?”


“So he is still taller than you.”

“But he was so skinny! I need muscles!”

Now, let’s take a moment to get a good gander at the scene. This chick is in her early thirties & is as big around as she is tall. She is loud & brassy & is wearing scrubs. The bartender asked her if she was a nurse & she replied that she just wore scrubs because they were comfortable. See: elastic waistband. Scrubs are the professional version of sweatpants, evidently.

The bartender, on the other hand, is a good looking guy; he’s almost 6’ tall, athletic, graying at the temples, about 45. He is very charming & has this wicked, subtle sense of humor. We’ve known him forever.

“Oh, you need a guy who works out” the bartender says, understandingly.

“Well, he just wasn’t what I was looking for. I’d date you, though; are you on OK Cupid?”

“No, no, I have a girlfriend.”

“Really, how old is she?”





I have never been a person to exercise. It is boring to do alone & annoying to do with other people. I’ve always been very active, I’m pretty strong & I have a lot of muscle tone, but I’ve been noticing lately that my advanced age is starting to show. Then the topic of exercise came up at RedPillWoman & I think I just can’t put it off any longer.

I’ve always been pretty lean & I was probably skinny-fat during my “heart healthy whole grains” phase, but since I started menopause, it is getting really difficult to keep the weight off. Plus the problem of my fondness for beer & dive bars; I’ve always had the fondness, but it is probably not helping the weight issue, either.

The thing is that I’m super lazy & I don’t want to spend too much time on it. I’m not into cardio, either. I do have a really old SoloFlex set up in my dining room & I’ll rip off a quick 10 a couple of times a day, but that is about the extent of any sort of formal workout.

One of the things mentioned was Two Hundred Squats & since my butt could be a bit more pert & I can do squats at work (while everyone else is out to lunch) I’m going to try this exercise. Margery suggested kettlebells & I thought the exercises in the video she posted were pretty reasonable. Plus, you can see the chick in the video is really getting worn down by the end of the six or seven minutes of exercise.

Then Pill Scout tweeted a link to this article about green tea, so I went to the Asian market & bought a bunch of it. What the heck, I can use all of the help I can get, right?

I have already implemented the squats, but I’m having a difficult time finding a kettlebell. I guess it is the new big thing or something because there is a space on the shelf for different weights of them, but none to be found except the tiny 5 pounders. I want at least a 15 pounder; I did find a 10lb one, but it was really in bad shape & beat up. How does that even happen?