Have you ever wondered why your mother, sisters, cousins, and the chick that has friend-zoned you told you to be nice & just be yourself? I do. It’s because they have no desire to be attracted to you & they want you to be nice TO THEM & just be yourself TO THEM.
They really have no use for a son, brother, cousin who calls them out on their bad behavior & refuses to kowtow to their every whim. They need someone to help them move, run errands for them, and buy them stuff. They need you to listen to their complaints. They need you to unclog their drains.
The girls who friend-zone you & tell you that you will make some (other) girl a great boyfriend? They want you to be nice & just be yourself so that they can cry on your shoulder when their bad boy doesn’t call or dumps them. They want your male opinion on how to make their bad boy keep calling.
Besides, if you were to wise up, quit being nice & start being a better version of yourself, you would be too busy dating or spending time with a girlfriend to cater to all of the women in your life that you are not having sex with.