Over at Girls Being Girls, Margery has a great post about hitting the wall gracefully & in the comments, we had a discussion about when we actually hit the wall & what the wall looks like. I think there are three walls that are hit as we age.
I think there are multiple walls for multiple reasons. The first wall is when you lose the bloom of youth & fertility in the late twenties to early thirties, the second wall is around menopause or after (I’m currently going through this) when your body really does go through some crazy changes.
I think there is a third wall when you are no longer attractive in a sexual way when you are really old. Some women hit the second & third walls at the same time if they are not in shape & taking care of their figure.
Right now, even at my advanced age, there are definitely a lot of guys that would have sex with me; I see them looking; I’m in shape & haven’t started graying yet, so they think I’m a lot younger than I am. I expect to hit the third wall maybe in my mid to late 60s. Maybe I can hold on to it longer than that, my mom looked pretty damn good through her mid 70s.
I haven’t really seen this concept anywhere else ’round these parts, but of course the first wall is the one all of the young guys are concerned about, when the bloom is off, because the bloom is what is important to young guys.
Older guys, around fifty or so, might not be as concerned about youth as an attractant; if a woman is in her forties or fifties & in excellent shape with a pleasant attitude, the older guy might be attracted.
But there comes a time when a woman gets so old or out of shape or has a negative personality that she is no longer considered a sexual being, but might be described as an old woman or a crone. Hopefully when I turn into an old woman (I refuse to be a cantankerous old crone) my hubby’s husband goggles will still be in force & at least he will continue to see me as a sexual being.